The reason of this post being; I believe some of you at some point of time have ever thought of becoming a blogger/ model, etc. So I am here to share my experience of being one till date with you guys, and as glamourous/easy as it seen by the public. No job is easy.
Personally, I've never thought that i'll become one myself today. I know I am not some famous model/blogger, in comparison to the veteran blogger Xiaxue, Ohsofickle (Tammy Tay), some other famous bloggers as well!
These people have dedicated so much time on their blogs/ social media and their efforts are really commendable! Be it Fashion, Makeup, they are like dotcom for product reviews too, which results them to where they are today! :D
Being a blogger/ model ain't that easy. You will have to face the scrutiny of the public, and although I am no big time model/blogger, I am starting to feel it as well.
Let's just be realistic here. In this modelling/ blogger industry, we all have to be cautious on how we are being perceived by the public.
There were a few instances I was recognised by the public, they were like pointing and whispering to themselves ( I know that's normal, I am not against anyone who does that! ) and then people will glance at you from head to toe, scanning your face, outfit, hair, bag, etc.
Then in your heart you will be so cautious of yourself, like, is my hair okay, is my outfit weird, do I look fatter in my outfit than usual, etc.
Next, you'll start to worry if people will hurl nasty comments / being judgemental cause either they love you or hate you.
I mean, it's understandable that you can't please everybody and they are bound to be haters all around. But you know what; how can you be so quick to judge someone whom you've never interacted with or spoke to before?
Like they always say, if you've got nothing nice to say, then please don't say anything at all and I can relate to that. I do not understand why people have to say words to put others down when they don't even know you?
We all know all bloggers have fallen victims to such mean netizens.
Soon to come, I know my time will come too and I will have to face more of such people. ( I do not expect everyone to like me )
I am not saying suggestive comments to improve aren't welcome, but hey, if you feel that he/she does not look good in someway or another, it doesn't hurt if you could put it in a nicer way like for instance:
"Hi there, I do not mean to be rude, but I think your makeup looks a little too thick in some pictures. Perhaps you could look into it and I feel you will look better! "
Sounds much better than...
"Omg, why is your makeup so thick? You look so fake!"
I mean, we all are human. We need to constantly improve ourselves, to look better, etc. I love receiving polite, suggestive feedbacks, they are little reminders telling me I should improve in some way or another.
Saying things in a nicer way does help a lot. I really can't comprehend why some netizens just want to say hurtful words to a stranger, in a way inflicting hurt to the other party by the choice of words?
Ultimately what is your aim of telling us all these? For the better for us to change? Or you just simply want to say words of spite out to hurt others?
If it is the heart of wanting us to look better and change, I do not see why writing it in a nicer and polite way is a problem for some netizens.
"All these little psychological games you will be playing with yourself, and deep down inside, nobody will be able to understand, but only you." As quoted from Eunice Annabel's blogpost.
I really applaud the bloggers/ famous social media people who has braced themselves against people who are so judgemental, and I believe some people have scarred them with their hurtful words and they still move on with their lives, still as happy.
Nevertheless, I do understand that it is inevitable to have nasty people around, and I know that it is not possible to please everybody/ or have everyone to love you, so I believe,
"Those who matter don't mind, and those who mind, don't matter"
Afterall, I am just an amateur blogger and I have a lot to learn, a lot of experiences to go through.
And oh, a disclaimer to make on my askfm and emails, only polite suggestive comments will be entertained.
Previously, about a month ago or so, out of courtesy, I replied to the anon on my Ask.fm who asked me "why I am such a desperate wannabe" and saying I post questions myself and answered them, which obviously I did not? ( I believe it was being flagged by some of my supporters :D so hence it got removed )
And I can't express how thankful I am for you guys for your support and encouragements given to me on my ask.fm and emails :')
I believe I have every right to ignore mean/impolite questions, as I am busy myself, I do not see why I should spend time answering people who aren't sincere on dropping a comment. To be fair, I would rather spend my time on people who are polite and genuine.
Let's all be nice to each other.